Which of these qualifies a good relationship the presence of conflict or the absence of it?

Conflict must first be defined, people have very mixed views on the idea of what conflict is. I think a relationship that has conflict (which by my definition is an unmet need) is not the problem neither is it what makes or breaks the relationship. In my opinion it is the "right" management of these differences which determines the longevity of a relationship.

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Permalink Reply by Jean (JJ) Brun on October 31, 2008 at 2:05pm: Victor,

"A relationship that has conflict, by defn is a relationship that has an unmet need' - by Victor Granville...that's brilliant dude! I'm going to look very good quoting you. Thanks!

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Permalink Reply by Guy Harris on November 6, 2008 at 12:05pm: Victor,

I agree with JJ, great statement about unmet needs.

I also agree with your comment that the unmet need is an issue it is not the problem. The problem lies in successfully identifying and addressing the unmet need or needs expressed by the conflict.

I would say that relationships that have not been tested by a conflict have not yet reached a high trust level. Every relationship has some level of conflict at some time. Resolving the conflict so that everyone involved can stay in relationship is the hallmark of a strong relationship.

Pretending that conflicts don't exist really tends to make things worse and not better.

Even though I don't particularly like conflict, I think it is necessary for relationships to grow and thrive.; ▶ Reply to This